Asking instead of Telling

Something I have found myself doing as of lately, is telling my husband what to do, instead of asking him.  After the behavioral issues we have dealt with over the past few years, I have found myself treating him as though he is my third child, and at times, it doesnt help things.  In fact, it can hurt.  I know for myself that I dont like being told what to do, like I am a child.  Why should my husband be any different?

One of the important things I am finding and having to remember is he is still an adult.  It is a hard balance going between behavioral issues, back to good, and having to learn to trust his abilities again.  I can honestly say I dont know that I will ever get back to not having questions about behavior, or decision making, but for the sake of our marriage, I have to learn not to treat him like a child, and TELL him what to do.  Asking him to do something goes a long way, along with a please and thank you thrown in there.  It comes down to respect, and I respect my husband

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